It's tough when you have to deal with a break up. There are so many questions and emotions going through your mind, you feel lost and alone in this world. The only thing you want is to get your ex back. You want to make things the way they were. But how, how do you do this? Is it even possible?
Let me reassure you - it's absolutely possible, but it will take more than just wishful thinking to achieve it. If you really want it, you have to do it right, otherwise you will make the situation even worse. The latter is not too difficult to do, because break up is a very delicate situation. Not to mention emotional. And here lies the core of the problem - emotions. Breaking up awakens strong and powerful emotions. The problem is that these emotions tend to take control. They control you and not the other way around.
It's hard, because you are in a very emotional state, but you have to take control. Otherwise it's not going to end the way you want.
In this delicate situation you simply can not afford to be desperate, clingy, needy, and so on. It won't help if you will argue, stalk, accuse, drink, beg, and so on.
What you need is also a plan. In other words, you have to know exactly what you are doing. You have to know in what way to approach the situation to make it better and not worse. Because believe me, it's very easy to make things worse.
Always remember one thing: what people want the most is what they can't have. If you do things correctly, you will not only stop a break up, you will reinforce your relationship.
"We just broke up, but I strongly believe it was a mistake. I want a second chance. What do I do to get my ex back?"
This is a fairly common question, because breakups are mostly not bilateral, meaning that usually only one party initiates it. And the second party is rarely happy with that.
So, what can you do? Quite a lot actually, however, in this post we'll talk about what not to do, which is equally important.
People are emotional beings and when concerning relationships they tend to react very emotionally. But in case of a breakup, this is actually a bad thing. The fact is that most people react entirely inappropriate in situations like this. This usually results in doing much more damage than good.
Here are some common reactions to a breakup:
You should stay away from these behaviors without any exceptions. They will almost certainly harm your relationship even more.
I know it's hard because emotions are all over the place and you feel a tendency to act like that, but please, don't do it. That is, of course, if you want a decent chance to get your ex back.
So what should you do? First, try to calm down. Next, have a plan. This is not a time to be improvising. You must approach the situation with a good plan, but I'll talk about this in my future posts.
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